Go‑to expert on gender identity, Schuyler Bailar, offers an essential, urgent guide that changes the conversation about gender identity and how we talk about it.

He/She/They uses storytelling and the art of conversation to give us the fundamental language and context of gender so that we can meet people where they are and pave the way to understanding, acceptance, and inclusion.

As a transgender man, inclusion advocate, and LGBTQ+ educator, Schuyler Bailar is more than familiar with the myriad questions that come up. In He/She/They, he addresses them head on, such as why being transgender is not a choice, why pronouns are important, and what is biological sex. But this book is more than a book on allyship; many of Schuyler’s vast followers come to him for support; one of his most popular reels is speaking to a young trans person who asks, “does it get better?”

He/She/They is an essential, urgent, and potentially life-saving book that will change the conversation about gender identity and how we talk about it, moving us toward a more equitable future.

praise for he/she/they

"Bailar explains to readers how to understand transness and gender, why language matters, and how to be an ally... Highly recommended for public libraries."
"A smart and accessible discussion of gender and sexuality."
"Revitalizes a conversation on gender but also provides a central framework for self-advocacy."

Preorder He/She/They before October 16 at 11:59 PM ET to receive a free gift of an allyship ebook and a ticket to an exclusive virtual Q&A with Schuyler.

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Schuyler Bailar (he/him) is the first transgender athlete to compete in any sport on an NCAA Division 1 men’s team. Schuyler’s difficult choice—to transition while potentially giving up the prospect of being an

ABOUt Schuyler bailar

Educator. author. advocate.

Schuyler is an internationally-celebrated inspirational speaker, author, and advocate for trans inclusion, radical body acceptance, and mental health awareness.

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