We must all remember that other people’s opinions of us are not facts. That is, when someone attempts to invalidate who you are, it doesn’t actually mean you are invalid. It means a whole lot about that person, their character, their insecurities & fears, their views of the world… It does not mean anything about who you are. This does not mean you can’t feel upset about it. Of course it hurts–and I encourage you to validate this anger and pain. But you must also remind yourself that their words and their invalidation do not reflect your character. Do not use their words as weapons against yourself. Tend to the wounds, validate your pain, but do not pick up their weapons and use them on yourself.
In order to combat invalidation, spend time actively affirming yourself to place a different voice in your head space. I always encourage folks to write affirmation lists for themselves. See below for inspiration.
Example of Affirmation List for LGBTQ+ Folks:
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